some inquiries and feedback

Real and authentical client inquiries and feedback given to us. Personal data has been removed. Otherwise we do not change anything, neither grammage nor content.

What we honestly can say after all this years of marriage counselling, there is nothing that does not exist:

One night stands, affairs, external relationships, polyamores, painfully in love, separation pains, teenager child problems, challenges of patchwork families, open relationships, triangular relationships, expectations, loneliness, "Should I stay, should I go", and much more.

We accompany and support our client with the belief that you are OK, no judgment given.

I can breath again.

Dear Ulrich

just a note to say thank you for this morning.

The session was so useful I felt I could breath and felt taller afterwards. I'm sure the road will be rocky but let's bring it on! Better than being squashed under rocks.

Looking forward to our exchange in 2 weeks 

Thank you again

Message: Please help us.

I'm interested in beginning counselling to help with a variety of issues (mostly situational and discussing healthy coping mechanisms, understanding, etc). I would like to begin as soon as possible, depending on your availability.

 Thank you for your help.

Message: Dear Sir/Madame,

 I am married for 18 years. During the past year my marriage has been deteriorating. I have become controlling, jealous and insecure. This is causing fights and misunderstandings. My wife feels controlled and this is taking us into the brink of separation. It has reached to the point that when I asked how her day was she feels controlled.  Now it feels like stepping on eggshells whenever we start a conversation, from my side and from her side.

 At the moment I would like to seek for therapy because I like to save my marriage. She is hesitant about therapy. She has the feeling that this will not help and we are a point of not knowing how to proceed. 

My husband is not keen for counselling.

Hi Ulrich

I hope you continue to be well- no doubt you are still very busy. 

I would like to restart the sessions with you. As I suspected, things have not improved enough for me and I need help to work things through. My husband is still not keen to attend but I would like to work with you to help me put things in perspective, consider what I might need to do differently. I found the concepts you put to us in that session last summer truly relevant and helpful. I understand it is not ideal to only have one half of the ‘problem’ to work with, but I am sure you can help me find better ways to respond to the situation I am in. 

Kind regards 

Lack of communication and issues understanding each other.

We are Danish couple and we have a long relationship together (over 20 years). We have two beautiful daughters, age 5 and 7-years-old.

My husband has struggled with a burnout  for a couple of years now. Our marriage is in big danger because of the lack of communication and issues understanding each other. 

I would like to try a couple therapy, my husband is not very convinced, but I do hope he would come with me and try. We are so exhausted with the situation, but I still have high hopes to fix our marriage. Would you happen to have any time to meet us soon? I would also like to understand a bit more about your procedure and rates; how many session you normally need. The rates I could see on your websites and I am aware it isn't health insured covered.

Thank you and looking forward hearing from you soon.

kind regards,

Dear Paarhilfe team,

I and my wife are already 19 years married. We are living in nice large house with huge garden and we have 3 wonderful kids, and 1 amazing dog.  Altogether  we are enjoying our days in Switzerland.

Both of us have a high education, and we are professionally engaged.

Now we deceided to try to build a private business.  Everything seems to be good.

Sadly, our past is full of aggression, miscommunication, wrong priorities, "personal" problems such as depression, alcoholism, aggressive behavior, lack of control, rage, selfishness, anxiety, one sided views of problems, lack of motivation for deep exploration of a human nature, obsessives compulsive disorder, an urge to control everything... and much much more. Basically, no communicatation..

No we have arrived on a "point of no return".  We are really urgently in need independent external evaluation, guidance and help.

Please help, its urgent, really urgent.

With friendly regards,

Please help us, to seperate in a positve way.

Dear Daniela and Ulrich

We have an appointment with you next week. We would like to make it fort he moment the last appointment and thought, we could, with your help, use this appointment for a «ritual» where we can thank each other for all the good things we had in the past. On the emotional Level.

 On the practicle level, we are focused on practical and financial arrangements (in your words, the project level!). In light of that, would you have referrals to a good English speaking mediator in the wider Canton Zurich area? 

 We sincerely want to thank you for your support these past months and weeks. It has really helped us to 'unblock' and move forward. We do believe we may continue to need your help, and will reach out then for a new appointment. Without you two, it could have gone extremely nasty. One day, I am sure, the kids will be greatful we went to get external help.

Thank you, we are humble

Enormous difficulty communicating.

My name is M. and my husband is W.  I am British - and my husband is Swiss.  We met in Schottland being on hollidays about 4 1/2 years ago and were married in August 2015.  It is a 2nd marriage for us both. We divide living between our respective countries.  I speak only English and he speaks both English and Swiss-German.  We are experiencing enormous difficulties with communication, or the lack of it.  Healthy discussion skills are almost non-existent.  We have a deep love for each other, and we’re desperate for some help which will enable us to continue our lives together.  We sincerely hope you can help us.

Dear Madame, Dear Sir,


My wife and I have gone through a rough time recently. We both engaged lawyers to prepare for a separation. However, before breaking up our marriage we decided to seek help. We got married in 1992 and we would like to give our relation ship another chance.  We hope some counseling will help us to bring us closer together again.

We looking forward to hear from you.


I have heard from marriage counseling you offer in Cham and how much it helped them to look at their problems.

I’m an Australian living here in Switzerland for the past 6 years with my Swiss wife and our 1 year old Boy.

We are going through a bit of a rough patch at the moment and last week I suggested we look at getting some counseling together.  However, as I’m writing this I have a feeling that it’s me who needs it most.

I work 100% from 7am - 5:30pm, so time during the week is Limited. Initially we can talk in my lunch break or after 5:30Pm

If that’s Not a possibility from your side I totally understand and would be happy to arrange an appointment via email. Thanks in advance for your time. I look forward to hearing from you.

Kind regards

Dear Mr Sprenger and Ms Bühler

 My wife and I are both interested in starting some couples counseling and interested in your offering. 

 About 4 weeks ago we had a large fall out following a month of having lost our ability to communicate normally. We are now in a period of separation to minimise further pain and hurt. However, we are both wanting to find some suitable counseling to help us resolve the cause of our disagreement, enable us to communicate again and improve our relationship going forwards.

We have 3 kids and all of this hurts us alot, wer are lost.

We both look forward to hearing from you about your offering and hopefully you have availability to start sessions with you soon.

 Kind regards


 My wife and I are separating and we think it would be useful to have some counselling to help us navigate the next steps.

 My therapist recommended you, paarhilfe in Cham, so I would love to set up an appointment. The only issue is we are both quite busy with work on weekdays, so I wondered if evening sessions are possible? Sometime in the next couple of weeks would be great as we have additional help at home then too.

 Please let me know, or call me if it’s easier.

kind regards

Dear Mr. Sprenger,

my wife and I would like to have continue the discussion that we started last week and focusing on how we move forward.

Please could you let us know if an available time on a Monday, Wednesday or Friday morning? 


Dear Ulrich

Thank you for today‘s session.

 I have a question. Our daughter, 19, has issues with stress management etc.

 I am not sure if you do that kind of thing, but if so, would you be willing to meet her for a couple of sessions?

 If so, I will put her in contact with you so that you can organise together.

Kind regards


My partner and I would like to seek an offer for a round of couple therapy. We have been together for 8 years and have a daughter.

Would you recommend a trial session first?

Best regards